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People are not listening anymore. I believe it has been like this for quite a while. Everyone is bent on doing what they feel is the right thing to do. Everyone seems to have a point to prove. So, we will always have groups and associations linked by common interests. We tend to connect with people who are willing to hear what we have to say and support our cause.
Everybody wants to be heard, but nobody seems to be listening. It gets even worse when people with different views from yours are now seen as “the opposition”. So, we will always see one group rallying against the other group, even to the point of inflicting bodily harm just to prove a point. Dissatisfied persons will still gang up to form more groups and the cycle continues. “REPEAT” seems to be the overriding motto in whatever constitution of manifesto they live by. So, we will always see the same scenarios playing out over and over throughout history.
There is definitely a disconnect in all these societal chaos. The situation may seem inexplicable, even insurmountable, with no headway in sight, yet the answer, as always, has been staring us in the face for generations. Pay Attention!
It seems to have eluded us that the same things we do require from others, are the very same things we are also found wanting. I do not think there is anything wrong with people having different views and standpoints about various aspects of life. In fact, it is a welcome development, because without it, there won’t be considerable growth and progress. However, what I find disheartening is our inability to accept or even consider the standpoint of others. Even personal relationships of all kinds are not left out. This has degenerated to the level where we find our society today. We can definitely do better, so we can see a lot less crisis every day.
Some level of sense can be found in every nonsense. Paying attention to the views of others can help us empathize, and possibly become more constructively responsive and proactive, rather than destructively resistive and reactive. This of course applies to people from all walks of life. Thus, different standpoints can actually be a fertile ground for pooling various ideas which can be harnessed, filtered, and employed positively for the overall good of the society. Don’t you think it would be an extremely monotonous, unexciting and uninteresting world if we had only one viewpoint to live by?
As always, listening to both sides of the divide is a great step towards having a balanced understanding of the prevailing situation, which will drive a more proactive stance in managing issues, which will consider all sides of the equation, thus achieving a cohesive front which is always stronger and beneficial than a divided front, as we do see today.
What more can be said about these things? Pay Attention!
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